It is
estimated that nearly 40 per cent of marriages end in some form of failure. I
have analysed nine reasons for marriage failure and traced these into three
broad areas: Body, mind and spirit. Here is my take:
Body Analysis
1. Inadequacy of sexual fulfillment is the
number one reason in body analysis. For males, it might have been caused by
high degree of promiscuity, erectional issues or early ejaculation along with
excessive usage of drugs and liquor. For females, it can vary from seasonal
fluctuation in libido to frigidity.
2. Non - responsiveness to stimulation by
either party is the second most important cause affecting marriage in the body
side. Major symptom is that when one party initiates the other party withdraws.
Immaturity on the part of one spouse or both along with wrong match in terms of
partner selection contribute to this malady.
3. High break out ratio of body in
sustaining physical intimacy is the third reason for marriage failure. As a result,
either or both party give up having close relationship with each other. It can
be further traced into balance in elements, temper, yin and yang, physical
fitness and so on.
Mind Analysis
4. Unrealistic level of expectation is the
number one reason flagged in mind analysis. Either or both party jack up the
expectation to unimaginable level and often be disappointed when it is not
forthcoming. For example, celebrity marriages take place with high expectation
on both sides starting with a bang and finally ending with a whimper. Symptoms
are aggressiveness on the part of one matched equally by isolation on the part
of other.
5. Lack of equal commitment to make
marriage a success is the second reason shown in mind analysis. This results in
symptoms such as turning away from the spouse, monosyllable answer to queries
from spouse or use of abusive or unacceptable language in communication.
6. No emotional balance between spouses is
a key reason for marriage failure. If marriages to work well both parties must
realize that, they are dependent upon each other on emotional well being. When
such a bulwark is not available, partners tend to lose commitment to keep the
marriage on and allow it to lapse.
Spirit Analysis
7. Selfish spirit is the key reason in that
wrecks an otherwise workable marriage. Being selfish is often accompanied by
being egoistic. When one partner puts his interest first and sacrifice the
common interest on the altar, surely marriage cannot last.
8. Sly and cheating spirit is the next most
despicable one that cause havoc in marriage. Most sly and cheating spirits
abandon lawfully wedded spouse in favour of charlatans or pleasure seekers and
often engage in unsavoury liaison tending towards painful failure.
9. Sex craving spirit on the other hand
does not normally flirt with outsiders but engage in voyeurism or wild
imagination of sexual fantasy. A key ingredient in such a spirit is, that it engages
in what we call as blame game where the other spouse is blamed for the failure
of marriage or shows tendency to watch porn films with or without the presence
of other spouse to spite him or her.
Take care!
Muthu Ashraff
Cosmic Adviser
Mobile: +94 777 265677
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