It is common
understanding that you cannot trust a person who tells nothing about himself.
By the same token, neither you can trust a person who reveals everything about
him. Trust worthy people are from the middle road, who tell what is necessary to
be told and hides what must kept as secret. Here is a preview of these
personalities.
Dissembler: Machiavelli came up with one of his famous dictum: “Be feigner
and dissembler”. What he meant was that rulers, administrators and managers must
never reveal their thoughts, feelings, facts, and intention and the top of it their
identity. As a person who tells nothing about himself a dissembler often
camouflages his identity in such manner that he can beguile you to believe that
his intentions are noble. Concealing facts
and history is only a minor skill in them. They possess much more complex
talent in that, they can easily lead you to make wrong moves that can cost you
dearly. Charming, affectionate and as smooth and sweet talker dissemblers fill
professions of espionage, politics, marketing, strategy management, business
planning and show business.
Revealer: Happy go lucky character, a revealer gets a great deal of mental
satisfaction in telling everything about him and others. Discretion is not
something they ever stick to. At the drop of the hat, they start to rattle stories
about personal affairs as well as matters in public domain without
distinguishing the need to uphold privacy or decorum between these. They go to
pubs and public places and rant about any matter under the sun if they are
angry or glorify personalities if they are delighted. Telling others about
their ideas, feelings, emotions they reveal everything, consequently many
people tend to shun them. Talk show hosts are in this category.
Middle Roader: They express well, speaks to the point and effective in
communication. More often, they are anchored on the footing that say what is
relevant and necessary. In management parlance this is often known as ”need to
know” basis. When I say this, it does not mean that they are coming out with a clean
breast, never. They tend to keep secrets close to the chest and adopt a mixture
of tactics. One method is being
selective in praise and criticism. Another is to use judgemental form where
they give constructive criticism. Third one is to render effusive appreciation
of the conduct or achievement of the other. Most human resource personnel are
from the middle road.
Check which
one relates to you best, in terms of your current vocation or calling and thereafter
assess the degree of success you have being either of dissembler, revealer or middle-roader.
If your performance is not up to the mark then go for a thorough analysis of
your mind to find how you can improve your prospects.
Go ahead!
Muthu
Ashraff
Cosmic Adviser
Mobile: +94 777 265677
