In the
relationship theory the concept of soulmate is bandied around as some kind of
perfect partner who helps make your life happy and harmonious. Relationship
counsellors make lot of promises about your finding the ideal partner who
possesses the perfect fit. This is sheer nonsense. Not only there is no perfect
fit seen anywhere in the world, but the word soulmate itself is a big farce.
Here is my argument:
True enough that
union of a man and woman in love, romance and marriage leads to harmonious
relationship where there evolves physical, emotional and spiritual bondage.
Beginning with the body the physical relationship results in uniting two bodies
together aptly described in the biblical term “one flesh”. In the sphere of
mind this coalescing brings emotional stability between the two spouses. In the third dimension, conjoining the two spirits
to form one united spirit is neither possible nor desirable. Still there is a
degree of fusion between two partners where the spirit can act together in several
instances but differ in other cases.
While in love
and marriage meeting of mind takes place first and the physical relationship
follows thereafter. Nowhere have we observed that both spirits have got intertwined.
This is because each spirit has unique form and characteristics that cannot be combined
in any sort of perfect fit. If this is the case in the realm of spirit how come
one has soulmate?
Two aspects
are clear by this argument. One is that the purity of the soul cannot be
diluted by anyone as this is divine breath and is beyond the comprehension and
analysis of human beings. When a baby is conceived in a mother’s womb the soul
is blown into the flesh weeks after conception. When a person dies the soul is
drawn out and deposited in the divine mansion. There is no more discussion is needed.
The second
aspect is that the term soulmate is a farce rammed into the throats of
unsuspecting people as something that exists in the world to make them lead a
happy life. Consequently people fret too much about finding perfect partners.
There are five ramifications of this wrong notion:
1. Idealizing is the first ill that makes
you search for the partner with the perfect fit as if you are buying a dress
2. Fantasizing about an incoming partner as
someone who is going to be the man for you in terms of compatibility
3. Frustrating when you find out that your
soulmate has not arrived and that you have wasted time, energy and money with
the current partner/spouse
4. Excusing yourself as the one who is
victimised and resort to separation of relationship or initiate divorce
proceedings
5. Embark once again upon the vain search
of soulmate who is just a chimera.
From the point
of view of cosmic analysis of body, mind and spirit the soulmate concept is a
hallow one that brings worry and misery to those search for it and brings
cash-flow to the counsellors who preach it.
Muthu Ashraff
Cosmic Adviser
Mobile: +94 777 265677
E-mail: cosmicgems@gmail.com
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