One of the key
drawbacks you must remove, if you wish to progress in life and career is the
dismissive attitude that you show towards other people. Often dismissive
attitude costs a lot in terms of lost opportunities and the pain and anguish
caused to the other person and not to mention the regret and remorse that you
feel thereafter. Here are few salience for your purview:
Definition
Dismissive
attitude is defined as showing indifference or disregard to a person or what he
is trying to communicate. Ostensibly, there are two limbs in dismissive attitude:
one is that the person himself is dismissed as of no use and the other is what
he says is just crap. In a typical situation you have both limbs together. In rest
of the cases either you like the person but not what he says or you are
agreeable to what he says but do not like the person himself.
Presumptions
Building
blocks of dismissive attitude consist, but not limited to, the following bricks
and mortar in the mind of persons:
1. You
are always wrong and I am not going to listen to your blabber
2. I
know better that what you know
3. What you
say is not important / not urgent / not relevant to the subject matter under
discussion
4. What
you say is not valid and useful
5. What
you say means lot to you but nothing to me
6. I
am not prepared to consider you or your statement right now
7. You
are persona non-grata for me so just get lost.
Underlying issues
There
are active and passive issues that underlie in a person who exhibits dismissive
attitude. Superiority complex is the key active issue that causes this attitude
developing in many. Being superior in terms of birth, upbringing, education,
career, wealth and so on propel people to adopt dismissive attitude. Second active
issue that underlies a dismissive person is the fear that runs through his
spine that he can be beaten or overtaken by the other person.
A
number of passive issues are traced behind someone displaying dismissive attitude.
An important one is the idea that by not-contesting what the other person says would
pass into oblivion. Concomitant to this aspect, is the intention on the part of
dismissive person that the other person has no role to play at all and the door
must be shut on his face.
Remedy
Cutting
out dismissive attitude is easily said than done. It will take lot of effort on
the part of the person with this attitude to change over the time. Moreover he
needs guidance and correction from a neutral and external adviser under whose
care he has to perform remedial measures. A cosmic analysis must be made on the
body, mind and spirit, before implementing any remedial programme to ensure
that it results in success.
Muthu
Ashraff
Cosmic Adviser
Mobile: +94 777 265677
E-mail: cosmicgems@gmail.com
